A visit with a friend

Over the weekend I went to New York City to visit Annie.  Annie was an intern in Uganda for one of the first years I was there so it was pretty exciting to get to see each other and catch up!  The fact that she lives in NYC is an added bonus.  We got to talk so much about Uganda, life since then and current jobs, while also doing some pretty fun stuff.  I told Annie at the end of the weekend that it was so refreshing for me to be able to talk about Uganda all the time.  And with someone I knew was interested! Here are a few pictures from my quick trip: 

Arriving, getting Starbucks and waiting in line for theater tickets

Getting to see Mama Mia, a very fun show

Visiting The Strand bookstore, 18 miles of books!  (I bought only one)

A restaurant that serves only macaroni and cheese- yum

View of the Brooklyn Bridge and beyond

At the new World Trade Center site, 40th floor

On my train ride home I felt very grateful for all the different friends I got to know in Uganda.  Living in Uganda it sometimes felt like there were so many people in and out all the time- new students, new interns, other staff, visitors.  But one of the good things about it has been that so many people who shared my experience are now in the States.  I am hoping I can continue to visit with those friends as those shared memories help to connect my current life and Uganda!

Quick Comparison

I am definitely still adjusting!

Why Africa?

When I tell people about living in Uganda they will usually ask, "But why did you want to move to Africa?"  Usually I respond by saying something like, "Well, I studied abroad in Kenya when I was in college and always wanted to go back."  That usually satisfies most people's curiosity and then come the typical follow-up questions: what did you eat there? did you see lions? were you safe? (answers: food, yes and yes.)

Really the answer to the Why Africa? question is more complex than that.  When I started college I knew I wanted to study abroad and looking through Gordon's academic handbook they listed about 12 options.  One of them was Daystar University in Kenya and it seemed like the most "out there".  Most people study abroad in Europe and I wanted to do something different.  I remember working on the application freshman year and then getting ready to go to Kenya sophomore year of college, feeling nervous and excited.  That semester is what made me want to go back.  While the semester had it's ups and downs I felt connected there and appreciated the pace of life, hospitality and culture.  A few (somewhat blurry) pictures from those 4 months:

Soon after my arrival in Kenya- I was wearing shorts!  Not totally clued in yet but happy to be there.

Laundry in the Daystar courtyard

Had to put this one in for Eddie and Lisa!

So when it came time to do an internship for graduate school I was set on going back to Africa.  Through lots of searching and convincing on my part, I ended up in Durban, South Africa.  Obviously it is a whole different country and place than Kenya so there was a lot to learn and adjust to there, but I still felt that connection.

At a Habitat build in Johannesburg

Dancing with the now president of South Africa (then VP)! - I am on the far left with the long hair

After being in South Africa and finishing graduate school I started looking for jobs overseas.  But I either didn't have the experience or language needed, and ended up job searching for about 6 months before taking a job in the States.  A few years later when the Uganda job came up it felt like the right timing, and I still felt that desire to move there.  

My first week in Uganda

So, now the question is- will I ever go back?  To visit? I say definitely yes.  To live there again? Maybe, not in the immediate future but who knows?  Right now,  I am glad I have spent so much of my life in different parts of Africa and think I am only richer for it.

A Material World

I was thinking recently about the various things I've been able to enjoy since being back in the States.  As I've talked about on this blog, I was grateful for the simpler and slower pace of life in Uganda which is different than the general pace of life in the States.  I think part of that simplicity was due to lack of options for entertainment, shopping, etc.  However, I have to admit that there are some very material things I have enjoyed since moving back.  Sometimes the options seem overwhelming but here are a few material things I've appreciated:

1. The roads and traffic
Having a car and being able to drive on paved, well marked roads has been such a relief.  I did not own a car in Uganda but when I borrowed a car or was a passenger it was a much more stressful experience with potholes, traffic and people walking along the roadside- not to mention boda-bodas.  I would say one down side of living in a city in the States is the on-street parking but my parallel parking skills have definitely improved!

A foggy morning in Wilmington

2. Access to books and magazines
Since I love to read I have really appreciated being able to go to bookstores, look at books and buy any book I want.  Also being able to borrow books from friends and family so easily has been fun.  I went to Barnes and Noble one night this past week and had a great time walking around checking out the many, many books.  I also started subscribing to a few magazines and have realized how great it is to read a magazine while it is actually current, instead of months later when someone sends it to you.

Recent Christmas gifts and purchases

Current issues of my magazine subscriptions

3. Food options
This is probably the biggest immediate enjoyment- access to so many foods all the time, with nice restaurants and grocery stores.  In Mukono there were grocery stores but I made many trips to Kampala to somewhat nicer shops, but even then not everything was available.  This weekend I went to Trader Joe's and the selection and treats is amazing!  I also went out for a really nice lunch and the service, options and presentation were great.  In Kampala a nice meal out was such a treat, so I am still finding that balance of not having treats all the time!

Delicious meal at Terrain in Glen Mills

Some Trader Joe's treats

4. Coffe shops
There are a couple of coffee shops within walking distance of where I live and I just like the atmosphere and of course, the hot drinks.  It is nice to be able to meet a friend at a low-key place or sit and use the computer while drinking a tea.  Again, Mukono doesn't really have any place like that (yet!) so having a few close by seems luxurious.

One of the local coffee shops (and my most frequented!)

5. Phone upgrade
When I started my new job they gave me an iphone.  Lets just say the change from my Ugandan and pay-as-you-go Stateside phone was a pretty big leap.  I kind of scoffed about "smart phones" before but of course now I use mine all the time to look things up, check my email, get directions, etc.  It would be hard to go back!

The phone upgrade

So that is a small summary of things I've been appreciating the past 6 months or so.  I think some of the novelty is starting to wear off, and I also want to find the right balance of enjoying some of these things within reason.  

Christmas and New Years

I am resting at home after a busy few weeks of Christmas and New Years celebrations.  I thought I would post some pictures of the holidays to give you a taste of the fun times!

Snow on Christmas Eve and then much more!

Ready for family Christmas

Traditional sticky buns and family time!

Brady and Dad taking a break from present opening 

Starting off New Years weekend with some skiing at Mount Tussey

Up we go- Bethany and Aaron on the ski lift

Plowing my way through a side trail- first time skiing since Uganda!

Extended family time in State College- Kaitlin and Chloe snuggle together

Gathering around for present opening

Lots of crossbow and hunting action- go Taylor!

Taking a snowy walk/ herding the deer

First Night in State College

Happy 2013!

Winter Reflections

For the first time in 5 years I am experiencing a full winter season.  Even though it is technically not winter yet (but soon!) and I have been in the States for Christmases, it has a different feel to it.  Mostly because I am trying to figure out my normal life now that the weather has changed, and the changes that brings to routines.  There are fun and not fun things about cold weather I am realizing, so I made a few lists below on my winter thoughts so far...

Things I like (so far) about being back for winter:

1. Getting to go to holiday events and fun things for the whole season (example: the first picture is from Longwood Gardens which I visited last week)

2. Hot drinks multiple times a day!  Everyone enjoying hot drinks at my house this weekend (Also notice my cute tree): 

3. Having a real reason to wear cozy sweaters and sweatshirts.  

4. Not trying to cram in so much socializing in a short 2 week visit (like my Christmas trips the past 4 years), but enjoying various get togethers with people over time.

5. Cooking meals made for cold days, this weekend Meg and I made a big meal in the crockpot and I have been eating lots of soup.

Things I am not enjoying or dreading about winter:
1. When my car is frosted over in the early morning when I am leaving for work.  Some tools I bought last weekend to help me with that (along with some stray one needles):

2. Potential icy sidewalks and roads.
3. When it gets dark around 4pm.
4. The lack of green- most of the leaves are off the trees and in some places it looks pretty stark.
5. Missing a few of the Uganda Christmas traditions like the UCU Christmas concert with very lively singing!

I'm sure I will encounter more things that I like or dislike as winter rolls along!  Right now, I am enjoying all the Christmas lights and decor especially.  Meg visited this weekend and we did a few Christmas events, a picture in front of one decorative tree:

I am anticipating that January and February could feel like long, cold months so trying to plan some fun things to look forward to.  For now, I will not hurry December along!

2012 Book Review

On the suggestion of a friend, I just added a place on my blog that shows what I am currently reading- look for it in the right hand column under the pictures and quotes.  Also,  last year I did a blog post on my favorite books from the year and got lots of positive feedback from that, so I figured this would be the time to do a book related post.  I've still been keeping track of my reading on Goodreads and again, I really like that website!  So far this year I have read 48 books and have a couple more sitting next to my bed to read this month.  The books I am listing as my Top 5 are all books I have read in 2012 and would recommend to anyone!  Also there are some other recommendations at the bottom.  So, in alphabetical order by author here are my top 5 of 2012:

1. Running the Rift by Naomi Benaron

I already posted some about this book but it is written from the perspective of a Rwandan before, during and after the genocide.  I thought it did a good job of describing the scenery and culture of Rwanda from what I have experienced.  There are some intense scenes but very well written and compelling.  

2. Pope Joan by Donna Woolfolk Cross

I read this book on rural home stays in February, which now seems like such a long time ago!  It is the perfect historical fiction about a potential female Pope, after reading it I wanted to research how much was true.  It leaves you with lots of questions and good insight in to the times and the Catholic church.

3. Falling Together by Marisa de los Santos

 

I recently read this because I loved her other books.  Part of the reason this book resonated with me is because it takes place in Wilmington, DE and Philadelphia and the characters are exactly my age.  Everyone may not love it as much as I did but I think she is such a real writer with amazing attention to detail.  She also lives in Wilmington so I am secretly hoping I will run in to her some day.

4. Wonder by R. J. Palacio

This book was given to me by my friend Rachel who is a middle school teacher and is in the "young adult" category.  It is the story of a boy with a facial deformity and his experience in school.  It is so wonderful and humanizing, I think anyone would cry throughout the end (as I did).  

5. Half Broke Horses by Jeanette Walls

This book is a novel/memoir about the author's grandmother.  Again, I have read her other book and think she is a great writer, and this one didn't disappoint.  Weaving in details about the time period and her particular family makes this book unique and a page turner.

Also a few books that deserve a mention and I would recommend: The Invention of Hugo Cabret, The Secret Keeper, The Age of Miracles, Starting from Scratch and Wild.  If anyone has any recommendations for me please comment and let me know.  Happy reading!

Overlap

First of all, Happy Thanksgiving weekend to everyone!  I will write more about that, but it has been nice to be in the States for Thanksgiving this year and I hope that everyone in both Uganda and the US had a good weekend.  

A few weeks ago I got to see two friends from Uganda which was wonderful.  Something I have been thinking about recently is the lack of overlap my life in the States has with my life in Uganda.  Both places have good things, great people and things I appreciate and enjoy.  But almost none of those things overlap- people, food, scenery, activities, work, etc.  Usually when you leave a job it does not also mean leaving your house, friends, all routines and even the country you are living in and starting up all that in a new place.  So, I have been trying to figure out how to have more overlap and getting to see people from Uganda definitely helps.  

First, I got to see Charity who was a UCU Honours College student and has been living in the States for 3 years.  He had some great perspectives on the States and what he misses about Uganda, and we were able to laugh about some differences.  I especially enjoyed talking about places and people we both know.

The next day I got to see Brendah, who had been an  intern at work earlier this year.  She is in the States for a year, and arrived a few months ago.  Brendah is still in a big period of adjustment and was so excited to see someone who knew Uganda!  We got to catch up on recent happenings in Uganda and on our new lives.  Last time I saw her was the day I left Uganda when she came to the airport with me!

On a walk in Wilmington

During debrief with the students we always talked about being an "integrator" between your experience in Uganda and your life in the States.  The other options are to be an "assimilator"(someone who just fits right back in with no change in their life because of their experience abroad) or an "alienator" (someone who refuses to accept any part of their home culture and life).  But being an integrator is hard and I think will take many other intentional visits with friends from Uganda and my own reflection on my life there and here.

To end this post, here are a few pictures of my family's Thanksgiving.  It was a different experience than my past Ugandan Thanksgivings but definitely a good one!

Thanksgiving deliciousness 

Happy participants

 Hope everyone had fun celebrating in their own way- whether it was with family or an outdoor dinner with other expats!

I am an American

One thing about living outside of your own country is it makes you very aware of your nationality.  It is not something you think about a lot while in your own country because it is not out of the ordinary.  However in Uganda my primary identity became American- strangers would ask me about being from America, the first way people would describe me to someone would be as an American and you become a lot more aware of other Americans that cross your path.  It helped me to realize the (good and bad) things that are a part of me because I am American.  One thing Americans love is being an individual- being seen as creative, smart, different in all the right ways.  But once you are outside of your culture it makes you realize how much a part of you that culture is.  I like this picture below with the American flag, even though I think I was originally pointing at the Hogwarts sign:

One thing I appreciated a lot more about the States after living in Uganda was our elections.  I was living in Uganda in 2008 when Obama was elected then inaugurated and Ugandans disbelief at the peaceful passing of power was very striking.  I remember during the inauguration there was a part where Bush and Obama got in to a limo together to go over to the swearing in and Ugandans were aghast that people from opposite parties could safely get in to a car together and no one would fear anything.  I also lived in Uganda in 2011 during their last presidential election and the (founded) fear of violence was palpable.  In Uganda there has never been a peaceful transition of power, so the fact that Americans can expect no election violence, a non violent transition if that is the way the vote goes and for their vote to be counted is remarkable.  I know everyone complains about the political ads and facebook updates but I actually loved the whole thing this fall- the NPR stories, the ads, the discussions- just the openness of it all.

When I went to vote last week I got to my polling station in PA around 7am thinking I could walk right in and then head to work.  Instead there were 130 people ahead of me and I waited outside for about an hour.  While it was cold and a little long I felt so American and glad to be there.  

Not my actual polling station but similar look!

I had a few good realizations about being a part of American culture while living in Uganda.  Like I mentioned above Americans tend to value individuality and Ugandans value community.  I think my realization in Uganda was that a balance between those two concepts is probably the healthiest- being willing to sacrifice for the good of others, but also having enough individual identity to discern when being different is a good thing and being open to new ideas.  Another cultural thing I realized was that America is a very casual culture in general- dress down, joke around and value everyone being treated as equals.  In Uganda the hierarchal culture brings a lot more respect and formality in certain situations, which can make Americans very uncomfortable (lots of good stories about this from students!) Again, another balance thing for me- realizing I like our "casual" culture but also valuing the respect aspect and being open to that.

One thing I noticed with many of our American students in Uganda was a very cynical attitude about being American, which can be easy to adopt around a lot of foreign policy and aid situations.  The longer I was in Uganda, though, I realized that being cynical about America was a reflection on ourselves- that our nationality is an almost unchangeable part of our identity and the best thing to do is understand how it is a part of us.  I think critical thinking is key but maybe we should let go of some of our cynicism.  I know for me that the past 5 years have given me a whole different perspective on my nationality and how I can appreciate it while still wrestling with the challenging and uncomfortable aspects.

Storm Reading

Thanks to Storm Sandy I had some extra time for reading this past week.  I was off work Monday and Tuesday and spent that time in PA, with the electricity out part of that time.  The book I had been reading, Running the Rift by Naomi Benaron, had been taking me a while because it is about Rwanda and I was dreading getting to the part about the genocide.  So when it hit April 1994 in the novel I stopped reading it at night (my main reading time) and waited to finish it until I could do it all in one sitting during daylight hours.  

The novel was well written, especially describing the landscape of Rwanda and the small details.  The main character's escape from the genocide rang true to the stories I have heard survivor's tell- of confusion, hiding, help from unexpected people and darkness.  A few days after starting the book a friend from Rwanda, who was visiting the States, called to say hello and I asked him if he had heard of the book.  He said no but he was interested to read it, so I will keep you posted if I get his review!  The book is written by a Westerner but from the perspective of a Rwandan- overall I think she did a good job but would be interested to hear what Rwandans think.  I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in Africa, Rwanda or just a good story but be warned there are difficult parts.

Other reading material during the storm was the magazine Afar.  I had picked up the magazine a few times when visiting the States and subscribed to it after moving back.  The most recent edition looked like this:

It took me a few minutes to realize that of course the cover is Uganda!  The matoke is a giveaway.  There is a long article about a trip to Uganda to visit a friend and do some touring of the country.  A lot of the focus was on the gorillas but there were other good descriptions of Kampala, the countryside, etc.  I especially like the pictures on this page, the mongoose looks just like the ones that were in my yard:

I would recommend this magazine, the articles and photos are usually great.  It is interesting to see how many small things remind me of Uganda (or Rwanda) in the midst of daily life in the States.